My Book: Alphabet Advice for Adults
In a brief introduction, Hayman sets forth this collection's mission: "Each letter of the alphabet has words of wisdom to share, assembled in diverse writing sytles designed to give you, the reader, a morale boost and an extra dose of motivation to take steps toward improving your qaulity of life. " The contemplations that follow have headings ranging from "Awareness" to "To Zenith and Beyond," with essays, poetry and what the author terms "visual guided imagery" to offer insights into a more mindful, fulfilling existence. Read More...
My published articles include:
* Published article in the Detroit Legal News on Domestic Violence.
Domestic violence is a common and under-reported crime in the United States. Control is at the center of violent behavior. Abusive men use violence against women to exert and maintain control and power in the marital dyad. Abusive men feel entitled to express their frustrations or anger by being violent towards women. Although there is clear evidence indicating that women are, infrequently, the perpetrators of domestic violence, research findings prove that it is generally men who are the majority of the perpetrators.
Additonal Published Articles:
* Television Interview Q and A written version on Henry Gornbein's show, Practical Law discussing the impact Narcissistic Personality Disorder has on marriage.
* The Family Law Journal column "Ask The Therapist". They cover a wide variety of issues, such as psychological abuse, domestic violence, and personality disorders. All of the articles are republished with permission from the Family Law Journal, a publication of the Family Law Section of the State Bar of Michigan.
* My Blog, "Mothers, Love Your Daughters", was republished on the CureJoy website as an article wihich received 15,000 views and 3,600 shares the first week. Check it out.
Rebecca Hayman’s Appearance on Henry Gornbein's Show, "Practical Law" 3/17/16.....This is a written version of the TV Interview, "How Narcissistic Personality Disorder Destroys Marriages"
"....Over my years of clinical experience, I have witnessed an overwhelming number of clients describe their partners as narcissistic, and have reported being psychologically abused in their relationships. The typical scenario is the narcissistic partner establishing a power hierarchy, and maintaining his superiority with his spouse...".
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Michigan Familly Law Journal
Women abuse, often referred to as battering, is the most common and least reported crime in the United States (“Newsletter of the Vermont Governor’s Commission on the Status of Women”, September, 1980). Control is at the center of violent behavior. Men use violence against women to exert and maintain control and power in the marital dyad. The fact that so many individual men feel entitled to express their frustrations or anger by being violent to so many individual women illustrates the power men continue to hold over women.
"...There are common "clusters" of similar symptoms described as Borderline Personality Disorder, Bipolar Disorder, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and Histrionic Personality. Are there "common denominators" of traits among these varying diagnoses? What are the behavior/personality characteristics that would lead a trained therapist to diagnose one versus the other of these disorders? What are common treatments of therapies for these syndromes?..."
"...Psychological abuse, also called emotional or mental abuse, is defined as a form of abuse characterized by a person subjecting or exposing another to behavior that may result in psychological trauma. In this article I address the effects of psychological abuse in marriages and families..."
"...Domestic violence is a common and under-reported crime in the United States. There is an underlining psychological component in domestic violence that needs to be addressed and understood..."
How to effectively deal with Anger
"...The freedom to experience spontaneous emotion is part of the kaleidoscope of life. These feelings are not only happy, beautiful or good but can reflect the entire range of the human experience, including envy, jealousy, rage, disgust, greed, despair and grief (Miller, 1994)...
Mothers, Love Your Daughters
"...The love we we to our daughters, is love we must remember to give to ourselves as well. . When we take good care of ourselves, we have so much more love to give others..."
Coping with Discovery
"Divorce can be one of the most stressful, emotional, traumatic processes you will experience. We are all different, so we may experience different feelings, but no matter who you are or who wanted the divorce, you can still feel like your life is upside down. Your feelings will be all over the place, up and down."