Self Empowerment

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Located out of West Bloomfield, MI, I provide in-person and online appointments to Northville, Novi, Livonia, Plymouth, and Canton Michigan.

Self-empowerment is a qaulity in each of us that is like a muscle.  The more we condition it, the more self-empowered we become.  When faced with a major life challenge, (such as: job loss, death of a loved one, divorce, finding a new job, etc.), it can feel like the weight of the world is resting on your shoulders. The problem now feels like a test you need to pass but nobody gave you the notes to prepare. When the issue at hand seems to feel so much larger than you, and no answer is in close range, discouragement and dissolution result.

It can be a daunting task to get through your busy day with distractions, frustrations, insecurities, self-doubt, lack of energy and focus. What is holding you back from focusing more clearly, are negative thoughts you tell yourself when you feel overwhelmed. When you are ready to find the courage within yourself, which has always been there, you now can own your self-empowerment.

There are certain steps to take to self-empower. First, keep an open mind that you are capable of positive change at any point of the life cycle, regardless of age. Second, “knowledge is power”. Get the information you need to make educated decisions on how you choose to respond to your life challenge you’re dealing with. This crucial data you’ve collected is now what’s become leverage for you to know how to proceed further. Next, nobody should have to suffer alone. Don’t hesitate to be bold enough to ask for help from a trusted outside source to give you the support, guidance, incentive, and validation you need. Now, you have created a stronger foundation to stand on with having more clarity, more direction, and more inner power to tackle the challenge.

When you experience the authenticity of self-empowerment when dealing with a particular dilemma, you are mobilizing inner resources inside your reservior of survival skills. Self-empowerment is like a staple ingredient to keep in your pantry. It’s a quality that needs to be ever-present in your life in every area of your living. Self-empowerment keeps you strong. It keeps you alive. It keeps you moving. Self-empowerment will help you overcome many obstacles. 

For support with Self-Empowerment, you can contact Rebecca Hayman by calling 248-459-9191.

Giving Away Your Power

It’s ok to cry, but it’s not ok to crumble”-Betty Ford 


Giving away your power is a learned behavior.
It must be unlearned today.
Keep your power and give yourself tough love.
Be tough on yourself to break this habit.
Not listening to your gut instincts,
Making a choice against your better judgement,
Allowing yourself to wallow in self-pity
Are all examples of giving away your power.
When you have a craving to give in to a bad behavior,
Do something else.
Choose new interests to make your mind
Produce new thoughts--
Repetition of healthy thinking
Leads to:
better choices,
A brighter self-concept,
Improved behavior
And a more successful life-style.

When you get sucked into vacuum of negative thought patterns--
That’s an example of giving away your power.
You have the free will
To change those thoughts today.

Let’s say you’re feeling anxious,
And insecure thoughts are infiltrating your mind.
One thought, and then another, and then another…..
There’s so many now,
You may have forgotten which was the first thought that got you into this mental state.
Losing control of your thoughts
Is a form of giving away your power.
When you give away your power,
it is you, and only you
who is giving it away.
The good news is that this is something you do have control over.
Don’t let the anxiety take front and center stage in your life.
Don’t let it take control of you.
You take control of the anxiety.
That’s taking back your power.
You are the boss of your emotions.
Don’t let anxiety win.
Not on your watch.

Find that place of strength within you
That’s waiting to be discovered,
And make that change.
Here’s the key:
Your need for change must be greater than your
Desire to repeat your undesired thoughts or behaviors.
Once you acquire the motivation for change then
Change will come.
Make associations with your desired outcome with some form of incentive.

For example, the preservation of your personal self-worth
is far more important than continuing to be victimized
in an unhealthy relationship.
Feelings of low self-esteem, desperation and dependence
Can put a person in a vulnerable position to fall into the hands of a predator or an abuser.
It’s so easy to avoid facing up to the painful reality
of how a toxic relationship can
throw a person’s well-being way off balance.
When you realize you’re doing all the work to “fix” the relationship,
And you begin to see the unfairness of how you’ve been treated---
You have acknowledged that you’ve been
giving away your power.
But when you can learn to
Take a stand,
Speak your mind,
Be comfortable to be yourself , and express yourself freely
Without fear of criticism or conflict,
You are taking back your power.

When you take back your power,
You are simplifying your life and your relationships.
You are gaining a more positive outlook on future prospects,
And letting go of a way of being that no longer serves you well.
When you take back your power,
You can push yourself up and instead of being pushed down.
You can put yourself up instead of being put down.

When you take back your power,
You are giving yourself back something
That has always belonged to you.
Keep it.
Protect it.
It’s yours.


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