Sublimated anger is sensible anger when it is converted into action. Anger can be a useful tool in hour toolbox of emotions when you can identify its source. Finding a solution to anger is healing in itself. When not acknowledged properly, anger tends to bottle itself up inside. Society has done an excellent job of teaching us that repression is “better” than expression where anger is concerned. But when anger is bottled up, it festers; it lingers. Perhaps someone is trying to push you down in a relationship, withholding information that could help you get ahead in your career, or simply holding you back from excelling in your personal development. Something’s bothering during the day, but you can’t quite put your finger on it. It’s the anger that you aren’t addressing.
When you’re angry, it’s a sign that something is wrong. Picking up on this cue allows your brain to go into “fix-it mode”. Channel that anger into pushing yourself upward and outward from the spot you are stuck in, and get yourself unstuck. Do it just because someone pissed you off!
Neutralize your anger by breaking the cycle-- by doing something new today. Break out of your stifled state of anger. We are creatures of habit, and if we see anger modeled for us in childhood, we are likely to become angry adults. If we repeatedly get angry, then we are apt to continue to react angrily.
As humans, we cling to the familiar, whether it’s working for us or not. Just because behaving a certain way is an establish pattern doesn’t mean that pattern can’t be broken. It is never too late to make a change for the better. If we can turn the page of a book, we can also turn the different pages of our lives. Give yourself that permission. Make your desire for change be your leveraging anchor to motivate yourself for actual change. Connect with the necessity for change being stronger than your need to hang on to old dysfunctional habits. Consider what you are at risk for losing if you don’t start introducing healthier patterns now. The only one holding you back from managing your anger, and your personal growth is yourself.
“The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide that your are not going to stay where you are.” -Unknown
**This blog derives from my self-published book, “Alphabet Advice for Adults” available for purchase on my website or Amazon. “Transforming Anger” is one of few writing samples on the letter “A”.
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